Take a step back from your life right now. Look at it from the third person. Think of what is best for everyone, and not for yourself, just this one time. Make a choice, don't go back on it, just do it. Spend the time to think about it, consider all the possibilities. Don't rush into an answer, because its better if you don't change it after it has been made, that will just cause extra problems.
I say all that because I'm in that situation. I have been at an ever changing fork in the road, even though everything surrounding the paths are changing, the paths are still the same. I have been standing at this fork for way too long. My life has been changing so much in the past year and this is the only thing that hasn't changed because I have not taken a direction. All paths can lead to hardship, one will lead me to almost certain hardship for a time, but could lead me to where I want to go in the end. The other is more of an unknown, where it could lead me down a path I have been trying to get to for all this time, but then again it could lead me down the one I most dread.
This is where I need to look at it from other peoples point of view. The first path will be a difficult path for myself, but that is a weight I would carry only on my shoulders, and no one else would be exposed to that burden. The other path could lead me to happiness, the over all outcome I want out of this fork. But even with my happiness, it will cause issues to those around me, one being my best friend. If I take this second path it could just lead me down the first path with hardships being brought to more people then if I just took it upon myself to bare.
Do you try and interrupt two peoples happiness for a shot of your own? Or do you take the bullet and let them be on their way? Is a chance at love really worth crushing the relationships around you?
When is it time for you to sacrifice your happiness for the happiness of those around you? 5 Years? (just in case you hadn't caught on :P)
Sunday, July 18, 2010
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Damaged Ego, Damaged Bike
Last night I had my first fall on my motorcycle....
I was driving to calm down, because I was having lady troubles, and after riding the highways for about 2 hours, I had cooled my head and was ready to head back home. I took the closes exit, and as I hit the stop light of the ramp I must have hit a patch of gravel. The bike came out from under me and both me and my bike were on our sides. I came out of the accident with some road rash and my bike has a broken left turn signal and the gear shift got a little bent. I managed to pick up my bike and drive it home and the only thing that really hurt was my ego.
I was driving to calm down, because I was having lady troubles, and after riding the highways for about 2 hours, I had cooled my head and was ready to head back home. I took the closes exit, and as I hit the stop light of the ramp I must have hit a patch of gravel. The bike came out from under me and both me and my bike were on our sides. I came out of the accident with some road rash and my bike has a broken left turn signal and the gear shift got a little bent. I managed to pick up my bike and drive it home and the only thing that really hurt was my ego.
Saturday, July 3, 2010
Basic Formula to the Pick Up
Break the Silence,
This doesn't mean fart, this means break the barrier between not talking to her and talking to her. It can be as simple as asking what time it is, or if at a bus stop if she knows when the bus is coming, or anything really. This cuts the air between you two, and it gives a nice transition into number two.
The Kick Start,
This is where a little observation can easily come into play. This is what gets the conversation rolling, and please I will warn you right now, unless you are really good at bullshitting an answer, don't go Rambo and say something you might regret. Here's an example, say you see a girl at the bar, and she is wearing a band T-Shirt, though it is kinda lame and obvious, you could easily start a conversation about the band, just make sure you know some of there stuff, otherwise you may just look like an idiot. The whole point of this it to Kick Start the talk, so it doesn't end with awkward silence.
The Follow Through,
This is what all your hard work comes down to. This is where you have a good conversation with the chick, begin to wrap it up. If you need a reason to wrap it up, make one up. If you keep her wanting more of what you have given her a taste of she will most likely be willing to give you her number. Oh yeah, don't forget to ask for the number, because if you forget, then all you did was have a random conversation with a random girl, which seems rather pointless.
Just a quick example of when I used all the techniques, now this situation didn't end well because the girl I saw had a boyfriend, but I still used all the same steps. It was in the university library, and so I sat one cubicle away from her. I played on my computer a bit and then asked her if she could watch my stuff because I had to get something (Break the Silence). When I got back, I asked, "Do I know you from somewhere?" Yes I know its cheesy but it was at the university and I actually kinda worked. I continued by asking if her and I might have taken a class together, now it was a straight up lie but that didn't matter because she didn't know any better (The Kick Start). Her and I chatted and we ended up talking for a bit, on what program she was in, talked about motorcycles because I have one, ect. And finally I told her my friend was suppose to meet up with me in about 5 minutes, so I asked if I could have her number. Now I knew she had a boyfriend from the conversation we were having, but I figured I would give it a shot (The Follow Through). Most girls in a relationship, unless they are the cheating kind won't give out there number, in fact they will most likely ask for your. I gave her my number and went on my way, and to be honest I don't expect to hear from her ever, but it was better then just running when ya hear the word boyfriend, because you never know when there is a hot friend of hers looking for a guy. :D
This doesn't mean fart, this means break the barrier between not talking to her and talking to her. It can be as simple as asking what time it is, or if at a bus stop if she knows when the bus is coming, or anything really. This cuts the air between you two, and it gives a nice transition into number two.
The Kick Start,
This is where a little observation can easily come into play. This is what gets the conversation rolling, and please I will warn you right now, unless you are really good at bullshitting an answer, don't go Rambo and say something you might regret. Here's an example, say you see a girl at the bar, and she is wearing a band T-Shirt, though it is kinda lame and obvious, you could easily start a conversation about the band, just make sure you know some of there stuff, otherwise you may just look like an idiot. The whole point of this it to Kick Start the talk, so it doesn't end with awkward silence.
The Follow Through,
This is what all your hard work comes down to. This is where you have a good conversation with the chick, begin to wrap it up. If you need a reason to wrap it up, make one up. If you keep her wanting more of what you have given her a taste of she will most likely be willing to give you her number. Oh yeah, don't forget to ask for the number, because if you forget, then all you did was have a random conversation with a random girl, which seems rather pointless.
Just a quick example of when I used all the techniques, now this situation didn't end well because the girl I saw had a boyfriend, but I still used all the same steps. It was in the university library, and so I sat one cubicle away from her. I played on my computer a bit and then asked her if she could watch my stuff because I had to get something (Break the Silence). When I got back, I asked, "Do I know you from somewhere?" Yes I know its cheesy but it was at the university and I actually kinda worked. I continued by asking if her and I might have taken a class together, now it was a straight up lie but that didn't matter because she didn't know any better (The Kick Start). Her and I chatted and we ended up talking for a bit, on what program she was in, talked about motorcycles because I have one, ect. And finally I told her my friend was suppose to meet up with me in about 5 minutes, so I asked if I could have her number. Now I knew she had a boyfriend from the conversation we were having, but I figured I would give it a shot (The Follow Through). Most girls in a relationship, unless they are the cheating kind won't give out there number, in fact they will most likely ask for your. I gave her my number and went on my way, and to be honest I don't expect to hear from her ever, but it was better then just running when ya hear the word boyfriend, because you never know when there is a hot friend of hers looking for a guy. :D
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Up or Down
Falling for your own illusion, when you allow your "angle" of which you use to attract a girl to consume you and you actually become said illusion, which usually results in you entering a relationship with that girl. The only way you can break this is to find the things she dislikes (keeping in with the persona) and work it into the illusion, otherwise you break the illusion and all ends terribly.
Think with the upstairs and not the downstairs. Your motives can still come from the downstairs, but make sure the ideas and executions are from up stairs. If you need clarification upstairs is the head on your shoulders, and downstairs is the head below your waist. When you think from downstairs you can easily get caught in a relationship you don't want to be in, and you'll only be in it because of your downstairs thinking. Ways to tell if you are letting the downstairs take control, you don't really like the chick but when around her you find you are going into "boyfriend mode". This means cuddling and holding hands during a movie, ect. Now it only applies if you do not like the girl, if you do actually like her your in the clear to go full boyfriend mode. The best way to tell if you are doing it is when you with her. Even though your in boyfriend mode, you still think against what your doing, or are thinking or other girls/picturing her as another girl. Another method of telling is after she has gone, if you feel excited, giddy, happy, and can't stop thinking about her, your in the clear, if you have major doubts, are thinking why did I do that, or thinking major time about another girl, you have to get out of it as quick as possible, because downstairs is doing all your actions for you. Just a quick note, if you continue going through with it, the relationship won't last very long, it could easily end badly, and its not a one night stand so don't treat it as such!
Think with the upstairs and not the downstairs. Your motives can still come from the downstairs, but make sure the ideas and executions are from up stairs. If you need clarification upstairs is the head on your shoulders, and downstairs is the head below your waist. When you think from downstairs you can easily get caught in a relationship you don't want to be in, and you'll only be in it because of your downstairs thinking. Ways to tell if you are letting the downstairs take control, you don't really like the chick but when around her you find you are going into "boyfriend mode". This means cuddling and holding hands during a movie, ect. Now it only applies if you do not like the girl, if you do actually like her your in the clear to go full boyfriend mode. The best way to tell if you are doing it is when you with her. Even though your in boyfriend mode, you still think against what your doing, or are thinking or other girls/picturing her as another girl. Another method of telling is after she has gone, if you feel excited, giddy, happy, and can't stop thinking about her, your in the clear, if you have major doubts, are thinking why did I do that, or thinking major time about another girl, you have to get out of it as quick as possible, because downstairs is doing all your actions for you. Just a quick note, if you continue going through with it, the relationship won't last very long, it could easily end badly, and its not a one night stand so don't treat it as such!
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